| Can love last forever? | ||
| quartooggiaro | Posted: Wed Oct 11 13:48:02 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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Please, be sincere. I don't think love can last forever, you can get sick of anyone, even of the most beautiful/smart/nice person |
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| ifihadahif | Posted: Wed Oct 11 14:37:34 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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quartooggiaro said:
>Please, be sincere. I don't think love can last forever, you can get sick of anyone, even of the most beautiful/smart/nice person > Of course you can and will get sick of her from time to time, but the test of true love is being able to get past those rough spots. Too many people are not grown up enough to do it. |
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| addi | Posted: Wed Oct 11 14:48:53 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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the answer is yes, it can last forever.
What does a lot of couples in is the inevitable ending of the initial infatuation stage (it usually lasts anywhere from 1 to 3 years). This romantic, exciting, intoxicating high eventually fades, and if you're addicted to it then one of you begins to look outside the relationship to posess the feeling again. If you've developed a strong foundational "deeper" love for each other then you have the tools needed to overcome this obsticle. Too many people underestimate the amount of compromise and work it takes to make love last forever. *A gross oversimplification, but I'm not going to write a 10 page essay on love here. |
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| CriminalSaint | Posted: Wed Oct 11 15:33:14 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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can it? sure, I suppose there are lots of examples of it.
does it regularly? no, I can't imagine so. But I'm a bit on the young side - ask me in seventy years. |
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| libra | Posted: Wed Oct 11 16:34:46 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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i agree with addi. |
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| Mark | Posted: Wed Oct 11 18:11:39 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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addi said:
>Too many people underestimate the amount of compromise and work it takes to make love last forever. I agree with all you said, but this nails it (oh I do hope I'm using the right expression here :) To be honest, I went to a brake up very recently, but I still think it's possible to love someone forever... or at least the rest of your life. When you start a relationship, the early stage, you'll probably find that both of you are very similar. After a while you'll see that you both are different and that's where most relationships go bad. Or so I think anyway. That what you shared in the beginning is gone and you will have to learn to live with a person that's different than you are. As addi said that takes a lot of comprimise and work from both sides. I do not say that with that all relationships will work. I do believe there has to be some similarity. Oh and one other thing: Trust. Lack of that will kill your love, relationship, both of them, etc. |
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| Kira | Posted: Wed Oct 11 19:17:51 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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You must be careful not to romanticize, odd as that may sound. No, love does not "last" for any amount of time. It is not a spring of water that may run dry. The odd thing is that although we have no control over when and who we fall in love with, it is not something that just happens to us and if you want to preserve it, you cannot simply "let it" carry you where it will.
It's true that no one is so beautiful or smart that you could love them, effortlessly, forever - these are virtues which inspire amnity and admiration, but they cannot FUEL love. But if you love someone there's no since in asking why - because of this or that characteristic. Your love is justification in itself. But it is not a VIRTUE IN ITSELF. You cannot get by with simply loving someone and expect that to be enough. It will never be enough, and once you make that connection, the only things that are going to keep you going are honesty and obstinance. Tell each other what you feel and what you hope for. Understand that there is a difference between being realistic and being pessimistic, and in doing so ackonwledge that in a few years... in ten, or twenty or fifty... it might not work out. Until then, keep trying and keep talking. Some promises are made for us, before we ever say them out loud. This is what true love is. The rest is just wishful thinking. |
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| Kira | Posted: Thu Oct 12 01:34:12 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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*amity,
**sense. Shite. *shit! I mean, darn... |
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| mister maroon | Posted: Thu Oct 12 16:35:54 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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used to believe in this.
still do want to believe in it. waiting for someone to prove me wrong now... |
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| choke | Posted: Thu Oct 12 20:52:56 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
| Mark said:
> >When you start a relationship, the early stage, you'll probably find that both of you are very similar. After a while you'll see that you both are different and that's where most relationships go bad. Or so I think anyway. That what you shared in the beginning is gone and you will have to learn to live with a person that's different than you are. As addi said that takes a lot of comprimise and work from both sides. > >I do not say that with that all relationships will work. I do believe there has to be some similarity. > Huh. That's interesting, because when I first talk to people it's because we are different, and it's good to talk and see where they are. But then you find out that you're all the same, and you have the same instinctual flaws and it's disappointing. Or maybe I am just back to front :P |
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| addi | Posted: Thu Oct 12 21:18:44 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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choke said:
>Or maybe I am just back to front :P it's because you live in the southern hemisphere. You people do everything back to front. |
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| sweet p | Posted: Fri Oct 13 01:38:52 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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love and infatuation are tres tres different.
there is a [relatively] good number of people whom i know i will love until i die. of course then you can get into love and romantic love and all the other kinds of love.. i dunno. at the moment i love someone so so much but i don't know if i really really like them anymore. hm? |
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| addi | Posted: Fri Oct 13 07:01:02 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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Sweet P said:
>at the moment i love someone so so much but i don't know if i really really like them anymore. hm? unfortunately I understand this |
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| choke | Posted: Fri Oct 13 16:17:38 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
| addi said:
>choke said: > >>Or maybe I am just back to front :P > >it's because you live in the southern hemisphere. You people do everything back to front. *removes pants from head* ..oh.. |
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| sweet p | Posted: Fri Oct 13 17:19:02 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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[hi choke. i realised i miss you.] |
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| beetlebum | Posted: Fri Oct 13 18:27:38 2006 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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Sweet P said:
>[hi choke. i realised i miss you.] [p, i agree. hi choke!] |
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| choke | Posted: Thu Sep 27 18:20:19 2007 | Post | Quote in Reply |
| Awe! |
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| addi | Posted: Thu Sep 27 19:15:15 2007 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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choke said:
>Awe! and shock. nice to see you around again backwards Lady...and in love to boot. Good for you. |
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| Nikki | Posted: Wed Apr 23 15:53:08 2008 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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NO!!! |
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| Nikki | Posted: Wed Apr 23 15:53:40 2008 | Post | Quote in Reply |
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IDIOTS - ONE AND ALL!!! |
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